11 Hours Left & "Why is J Abstaining?"

I took my HCG trigger shot last night at 10:30pm. All day yesterday my ovaries hurt like motherfuckers. Today they're not so bad. Still tender but not as terrible as yesterday. This has me a bit worried. I would think that the HCG would cause increased swelling as it readies the follicles to do their thang and that the swelling would, in turn, cause increased pain. Not that I am a glutton for pain, mind you, but those twinges are a bit of a reminder to me that things are a'working' down there.

J mentioned to me tonight that he had abstained since Sunday. You would think that I would know this. But with all the hormones I've been injecting, sex has NOT been on my mind in the least. But why do I mention this? Well, if he has abstained since Sunday it means that those little swimmers of his are all backed up and many of them are 3 or 4 days old. I was blown away that he hadn't taken care of business at all in the past few days. But rather than say, "Sweetie. I'll take care of that right now" he instead argued with me and tried to make it sound like it was my job to remind him over and over (after EACH of his four semen samples) how utterly important it was to not abstain too long. I think Dr. Z cites two days as being ideal.

So I insisted he "out with the old, in with the new" for the sake of the eggs. I think I rattled off something like, "Do you really think I want my 12 brand new eggs that we spent $13,000 creating to be fertilized with your four day old sperm with possible DNA fragmentation at this point?" Yes, it was harsh. But dammit, what the hell WAS he thinking. Was he not thinking (really) or was it a case of passive aggressive behavior? I tend to think it was a little of both but I'll never really know.