Countdown To Transfer

Yesterday we were told that we'd be getting another embryo report today on the two stragglers and on how many of the 5 were still alive.

Umm, no.

It seems that Nurse J, who told us this, was sorely misinformed and even went so far as to say that she didn't tell us this when I quizzed her today.

We were also told, yesterday, by the same Nurse J, that we'd be told whether we were doing a 3 or a 5 day transfer today.

Wrong again.

They won't know til TOMORROW morning when the embryologist looks at all of the 3 day embryos at 7:15AM, and makes an assessment as to their condition. THEN, and only then, would we would know if the two stragglers had made it and then we'd also know if the group of 6 or 7 met the minimum criteria for day 5 (ie, 6 cells or more, grade 2 or better).

J and I both have our respective bosses on hold as to whether we'd be into work tomorrow and if they already knew...well then, we've been on a stupid informational merry-go-round for nothing.

We're a bit upset about the lack of communication that we're getting from Nurses J and T. The clinic people and the doctors are stellar, but the laboratory definitely leaves something to be desired.

They gave us a form to fill out to "rate" their performance on this IVF session ... I've got a few gripes it would seem:

• Dr S calling "J" and explaining to her that none of her eggs fertilized in the area where we all wait in our beds to be wheeled in for transfer. Talk about depressing.
  
• Nurse J telling me that she'd call me yesterday morning to "check on" me and not calling til 1:30PM in the afternoon.
  
• Nurse J said they'd call me this morning, today, to give us an updated embryo report. No report. No call.
  
• Today, I called the clinic 3 times, and J called once, trying to get this "alleged embryo report" and we never got ahold of Nurse J. Nurse T tells us that embryo reports just aren't done on day 2 unless you're one of the very rare Day 2 transfers that they do each year.
  
• Nurse J saying, yesterday, that we might do a 5 day transfer and would find out today. Woops. Wrong again.
  
• Nurse J saying, yesterday, that we were scheduled for a 12:30PM transfer with Dr. Generous, then finding out late this afternoon from Nurse T that we'd been rescheduled to 8:00AM. Great, a 55 mile drive thru city traffic? My idea of a stress-free transfer for sure. I told Nurse T today that it made no sense at all for us to drive 55 miles to the clinic only to be told, "Hey, one of your other eggs fertilized so we'll be doing a 5 day transfer! See you Sunday!" Instead, I suggested we do a transfer later in the day to allow the embryologist a chance to make an assessment...they could call us...then we could decide on day 3 or 5. Nurse T said something to the effect of, "Well that totally makes sense!" Why do I have to tell these people what makes sense? OMFG.

Grrrr.....

And another episode of "I'm on a honeymoon with my RE" just came to a resounding end.